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My take on Vanity !


People who know me up-close would be laughing out loud at the title of this post…….calling myself a novice is an understatement….am utterly clueless and hopeless when it comes to cosmetics, make-up…..

ok, I admit am no bollywood wannabe….but trust me am really bad….For a 25+ year old, all I ever possessed were a Kajal (love it crazy) and a lipstick. I owned just one lipstick till last year ( I bought 2 of them and one lip gloss for my wedding and that too since my friend S forced me to). If it weren’t for her, I would still be happy and content with that one lipstick of mine…….I never understood what blush and eyeshadow do and till date have no idea on foundations,compacts etc . So much so that my husband was initially shocked to see the little plastic box ( I claimed it to be my vanity case)……. ūüôā

Its he who constantly encourages me to try stuff and takes me to stores and pushes me to buy stuff. It isn’t that I am against it…I love kohl and especially the Smokey eye ( earlier clueless about how its done,but not anymore) but its just that I was never keen….all I need is a kohl pencil to make me happy….

I do once in a while venture into beauty stores to try stuff but would get out as soon as possible since am either intimidated or plain frustrated. If you had ever been into beauty stores in India you would relate to the frustrated part……On an average there are 4-5 sales assistants who welcome you into the store the moment you step in and then the drama starts……they compete against each other in eying your attention in a rather crude way and would whisk you off to their counter in a jiffy….I find this extremely irritating…..firstly, I’d prefer to be on my own and can/would ask for assistance if needed…and secondly, I everytime don’t want to buy cosmetics….

But if you think the drama is over at that, then you are mistaken….its just begun….

If you out of modesty do go to a counter, they bombard you with their products and information and I usually feel like running away as fas as I can from the spot…..I feel terrible…..they go this way ;

Maam since you have wrinkles ( I am super duper angry by then, since I know I do not have, come on, am in mid 20’s) use product #1, since you have pigmented skin use product #2 etc…..so if you can bear them for a minute or 2, your self-confidence is at danger and can sometimes hit rock bottom……And if one is smart enough ( you learn to be after a few visits) and appear disinterested another assistant from a different brand (who has been sneaking ) comes to you and says that she has better products and if you are lured to go to her counter, history repeats itself……

If you are really smart ( happens after a considerable number of visits) and get away from them as soon as you step in the store ( I now just say sorry and move on as soon as I get in) its just impossible to elude them….they proceed behind you as you move …..and by then out of sheer frustration I just leave the place without even buying what I intended to while I stepped in……

And then one fine day I chanced upon a blog and have been maha excited eversince….it literally opened a Pandora’s box for me , its my super duper beauty guide now….its extremely helpful and doesn’t intimidate me…Kudos to IndianGirl for running such a wonderful space…..products and techniques so elaborately explained and reviewed….great job, girl…..and the joy has just started, she now has shopping options for readers in India. Do check it out , I just bought a few of them today and am super excited…..

I met her lovely friend D today to pick up stuff. D is a very sweet, honest and patient girl. For an make-up ignorant like me she went on explaining stuff and answered my silly stupid questions (eg : how do I smudge an eyeliner , how to apply eyeshadow) with great patience….she was very honest which I totally adored….when I asked her if this would suit me or not etc kind of questions….I love it when I get such honest opinions….When S (my husband) and I met D and her cool mom, we instantly felt at ease….and loved the experience….adding to this, she spread the warmth by offering me to call her anytime for any doubts/questions etc……now isn’t she a sweetie ?


Mad and Dismayed


¬†¬†¬†¬† I¬†usually am a peaceful and untroubled soul…but a few issues/behaviors will always leave me chafed and aggravated. One of them is any kind or form of disrespect towards women. Today at work I over heard a conversation ( I didn’t intend to) , but the guy (who sits in the same bay as me) was so loud on his telephone that everyone around¬†had to¬†¬†pay heed. He was talking to¬†his friend A about their friend B’s impending wedding. This friend B, apparently, is engaged and its an arranged love marriage ( what on earth does that mean, Phew) . Mr.B calls¬†my colleague and asks him to “enquire” about his fiancee…and this dopey¬†colleague of mine is discoursing it at the top of his voice to his friend A, about how he is doing a favor for his dear friend…and remarks, after all “Friends should help friends”….and just after he said this I wanted to turn around and spank him and give him a piece of my mind….but more than that I wanted to whack his friend A who is a real ******* …….¬† WTF does this guy think….he is engaged to this girl and is in love (I’d wish to know what he means by love) with her and wants to enquire her….such an immoral and characterless brute he is….I’d wish the girl dumps him royally…..he badly needs to be shut up and given his attitude, he¬†is not worthy of any girl. Another occurance which re-establishes the fact that education doesn’t build character and values…..

Mellowing Innocence



¬†¬†¬† Today in the afternoon post lunch, I had come across a group of 4¬†primary school girls…they were sharing a chocolate muffin….and ate it heartliy with giggles and chuckles…..it was such a pleasing sight for me…was instantly transported to my school days…I am not talking about the muffin ūüôā …..its the unsurpassable bliss and satisfaction friends and sharing bring….those debonair days where eyes are drenced in dreams, and everyday is welcomed with gaiety for no apparent reason…when stress is unheard of…..
¬†¬†¬†¬†¬† Where are all those gone ? I do not say we dont have sunny moments…but there is a certain innocence, take life as it comes attitude which misses out…Is it a part of growing up?
  But I would say, if we have to give up on such simple joys, why should we ever ripen? I refuse to, but do I have a choice !

NOTE : The Pink Hibiscus is shot in Vienna by S’s sweet cousin. I simply loved it ! Smitten by its sheer simplicity .

Nostalgic & Jubilated


This post kept me pondering….sired a nostalgic tour…..and I cudgeled my brain for onetime.
We all lead a kingly life as long as we live with parents… our halycon years…where we eat whatever we want, how much ever we want and whenever we want..today I wonder what did my mom ever eat….she always sacrificed her share whenever we liked something…we all have favourites… she sure has a few of her own too…certainly…everyone does…but never asked for them….she always had leftovers….truly,god made mom since he can’t be present all the time.Mother’s love is always strong and will forever shine..
¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬† Love one shares in a marriage is yet another form….where we mutually sacrifice for that elated sensation sharing brings…I am more than happy when S savors and devours my favourite dish.I feel gratified beyond measure and¬† My heart goes hmm..hmmm…hmmm
Marriage does bring in quite many¬† changes in subroutines and asks out sweet sacrifices from both the people in the relationship….but I say with profound confidence that I am currently undergoing placidness similar to what my mom experiences…I cant claim its the same since am not a mother yet, hence would not be the right person to compare…but it sure is “tranquil contentment”.

Feeling BIG !


I arrived at Lorelle’s blog from laksh’s post and this challenge seemed entertaining.
I decided to take up both the options…come on, one doesn’t come across an invited opportunity to brag about oneself everyday….

Option 1 : About the moment when I felt “Big”
These little victories always make me feel “Big”.Though that single big moment is yet to arrive….

1. I was all agog when I graduated from university with highest scores ever given for a master’s thesis and an¬†offering for Ph.d from Cambrige was a truly prestigious moment for me.
2. When S and I got married and also everytime when S praises my culinary skills.He strongly feels I need to consider restaurating as an¬†¬†alternative profession…and then I blush till eternity.
3. Whenever my mom calls me.
4. When I read something notable and marvelous.
5. My first job and the appreciation I earned.
6. When job seekers( mostly freshers)come to me for advise.
7. When somebody drops a comment on my post…its a truly delirious feeling to be read.
8. And today when my aerobic instructor wanted me for a photoshoot ( a local magazine is featuring our studio)
¬†¬† I felt on top of the world…woohoo
9. When clothes I really like fit me to the T and also make me look good.

These little things make up life…isn’t it ?

Option 2 : About What it Would Look Like If You Were ‚ÄúBig‚ÄĚ

¬†¬†¬†¬†¬†¬† I dream earnestly about making it “Big”(the single moment along with little victories). “Big” for me is not to be rich or famous…I would consider myself “Big” when I shall teach at a university,become a consultant,a writer,an¬† environmentalist,and also a¬†successful homemaker…..I always dream “Big”¬†and I sincerely believe that dreams are inspired by our intuitive consciousness.

Conjugal treats


5 months ago…on this very same day S and I tied the knot and honestly life is eminently blissful eversince…
I am a total sucker for birthdays and anniversaries…I get super excited about them …..Infact I was more excited on S’s birthday than he himself was….this happens all the time …….
Today is extra distinguished since it marks our 5th month of marriage and S’s b’day falls on a 5th too ( date wise)..¬†this coexistence makes me¬†as happy as a clam at high tide……Am a silly moonstruck loony ūüôā
Thus, 5 is very especial¬†to me…..Love you S !

Please appreciate her !


A forward from an ex-colleague.       
I do not wish to post work which is not mine….but I didn’t have the heart to¬†miss out on this one, so genuine and precise.

Tomorrow you may propose a working woman,
but you should marry with these facts firmly grounded in your mind……..


Here is a girl, who is as much educated as you are;
Who is earning almost as much as you do;

One, who has dreams and aspirations just as you have because she is as
human as you are;

One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your
Sister haven’t, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system that
gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements. One, who has lived and loved,
Her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as much as you do for 20-25 years of her life;

One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who
love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family name,

One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you
sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen

One, who is expected to make tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day,
even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more, and yet never ever expected to complain;
to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, even if she doesn’t want to;
and is learning just like you are as to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that
you won’t like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you;

One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at
her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing
to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy,
unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities;
Yes, she can drink and dance just as well as you can, but won’t, simply
because you won’t like it, even though you say otherwise

One, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines, just like
yours, are to be met;

One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important
relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her some
and trust her;

One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows
in your entire house – Your unstinted support, Your sensitivities and most importantly – Your understanding, or love, if you may call it.

But not many guys understand this……
Please appreciate “HER”